Today marks the first day of my last year in my twenties!! To be honest (yes I still write the full term out) my birthday usually excites me, but the last two years my birthday has ended horribly. This year though, I’m excited to have Birthright in THREE DAYS!! Since I’m about to embark on an amazing adventure AND it’s my last year to say I’m twenty-something I’ve been thinking hard about my life: what is important, what I want to accomplish, and the direction I’m heading. Here are my goals!
Read. I use to be an avid reader when I was younger. My mom was an elementary teacher and during the summer brought a box of books home for me. I usually finished before the summer ended. As I got older, studying for college and then having multiple jobs got in the way of my leisurely reading. I miss getting lost in pages of a great book. My goal is to read one book a month, starting with this.
Meditate. Anyone that truly knows me is aware of how anxious I am. As an abuse victim, I had to learn to read signs and anticipate what came next. Because of this, I tend to worry about EVERYTHING and create situations in my head, when really I should breathe and relax. Let things happen as they should. I’ve been told countless times that meditating will help quite my mind. This one I want to take seriously as it affects every aspect of my life. Every morning I want to take ten minutes to meditate. As I become comfortable in that, I will meditate for longer.
Stretch/Yoga. If you ask me to touch my toes right now, it would be a strain. I’ve never been great at stretching, but as I sit at work for 9+ hours a day, in my car for 1.5+ hours a day, I’ve become sore due to the lack of movement. My body is the vessel in which I want to accomplish much, so I need to start treating it better. I want to quickly stretch in the mornings to start my day, something I will couple with meditating.
Work out. I always feel better when I work out, but sometimes my social life (and even work life) gets in the way of that. My goal is to work out three times a week—be it classes, with a friend, or on my own. If I have a social event after work, I’ll wake up early to accommodate my schedule. No more excuses!
Eat healthy and take vitamins. I use to be the girl that was sick all the time. And I mean all the time. I recently realized that since I cut out fast food and other bad crap, I rarely get sick. My diet is nowhere near perfect, but I want to continue to cook at home, shop the farmers market, and eat clean. I also need to start taking vitamins and figure out what I am low or lacking to ensure a long and healthy life.
Make time for the positive, important friends. I literally have friends all over the world: England, Oregon, Los Angeles, etc. Again, life tends to get in the way, but whenever I get to see or talk to these people who truly support and love me, it’s the best. I want to make sure I nurture the relationships that empower me. I want to be a better friend and make sure I’m supporting the ones I love the most. I’m done with making others a priority that clearly don’t make me one.
Dog Park. I use to live super close to an amazing dog park in Culver City. Now that I’m in WeHo, I don’t love the one that is nearby, but no more excuses. Milo needs his socialization and play time just as much as I do. I will take him to the dog park once a week, not including walks or hikes.
Call Parents. I talk to my parents pretty frequently. We usually do not let more than a week go by without talking on the phone, with lots of texting in between. These two people mean the world to me and I want to make sure they are as connected in my life while I’m in LA. Distance and separate lives can interfere, but no one is ever too busy for Mom and Dad.
Drink Less. I actually do not drink all the time and go weeks without having even a sip of wine, but every once in a while I tend to go big. This is a negative thing as my tolerance for alcohol is high. In the last couple years, I’ve had incidents that have affected important relationships. I’ve realized that this is very similar to what happens between my mother and me. While that is so hard for me to write, acknowledging the problem is the first step. My loved ones are far more important to me than any stupid, embarrassing intoxicated night and I have too much I want to achieve to let one night of “fun” get in the way of that.
My blog. Starting my blog this year was the most important milestone for me. It’s something I’ve whispered about for YEARS. Now what? I’m struggling with how to stay consistent, as I’m not a fashion blogger or blogging about something I can post every day. At least to me. But I want others to know I’m always here. Sharing my story to help others is extremely important to me, so figuring out the consistency part is a must. A good start is to write every single day.
TWLOHA. I learned about To Write Love on Her Arms back in 2009 via social media. As someone that use to cut and was suicidal, I instantly was drawn to their mission and culture. They’ve created a safe and encouraging environment and I would absolutely be honored to work with them one day. I plan on submitting a request to share my story on their platform, as it was something that helped me.
Collaborations and volunteering. Helping other is my life mission; I can feel that in my soul. Sharing my story so others have hope would ultimately fulfill me. Just as I was scared to start this blog because I was afraid of the outcome, I’ve been scared to reach out and start working with others. I cannot let that hold me back anymore. Writing a blog is just the start, I want to meet foster kids, work with others that want to help them, and share my story everywhere in every form possible. I have a few leads so I need to put myself out there in a greater way. Once I start, I know I will find more ways to contribute to the world.
Since I’ll be in Israel for three weeks, some of these will be hard to start, but I want to hold myself accountable. I plan on taking a hard look at life while I’m away, so when I get back I can start off fresh with what I truly want to accomplish. So here is to Twenty-Nine and making it the best year yet. #turnmybirthdayintoalifestyle