Where are you from?
I’m from a small town in Oregon with a population of about 350. I’m pretty sure that number has gone up since I moved to LA!
Do you know your “real” mom and dad?
I must say I really dislike the term “real.” Sure my father is a real person, but nothing in his actions otherwise states that he was my dad. With that said, yes, I met my father when I was thirteen. He just as quickly walked out of my life again as he did when he walked in.
As for my mother, she has always been in my life. However, I have not lived with her since I was about four/five years old. Our relationship for the most part has been estranged, but something we are both working on now to make better.
Then who are you talking about when you say Mom and Dad?
My Mom and Dad are my foster parents that I moved in with back in 1999. Their names are Frances and Philip. When I go home to visit or say Mom and/or Dad they are always who I am talking about.
How did you become a foster child / How long have you been a foster child?
I officially entered the foster care system when I was about twelve years old after the abuse came out. However, I lived with different family members since I was about four/five, so really most my adolescent life was spent being a foster child. Read my post I did for Ugly Duckling Diaries to get a more in depth timeline of my childhood.
So you were adopted?
People regularly make this mistake in talking with me. I’ll tell someone I grew up as a foster child and they immediately say something along the lines of “oh wow you were adopted!”
I’ll try to explain the difference here: As a foster child, the foster family does not have much legal say in the things you need. Your biological parents do, if they still have custody. In my case, I was a ward of the state, so my foster parents had to go through the state to get permission to do anything with me. When you are adopted, the adoptive parents have all legal rights over you as if they birthed you themselves. (Source & Source)
What happened to your aunt?
She was arrested and sentenced to two years in prison. She was released just after a year of serving for “good behavior.” She is currently still married to my uncle and into my family.
Please feel free to ask me anything here. I will updated this as other questions become more frequent.